For me it all started 30 [now 38] years ago, the night I met Mrs. Incredible. The picture in that post actually looks like my grandmother did, but that was essential for the story. This is a little more like it:
That’s better. My brown-eyed girl. About 8 years later our son was born.
I say retain, because everyday behavior reflects a combination of retaining what we have observed and what we have learned. Learning implies a desire to retain. Observing happens, and is retained involuntarily. And so it would seem a simple matter to shed unwanted behaviors. But why is it so difficult? Unfortunately, the mind is often willing but the body is weak. Or is it the other way around? So these are the things we try desperately to shake off.
That’s really the goal: continuous improvement. If you’re not pedaling, you’re either coasting, falling over or going nowhere. For example - if we are alone on the street, and we see a $20 bill in the trash can - what to do? That’s right, you take the treasure and leave the trash. That is how we should learn from people we observe. But somehow, we frequently pick up some trash along the way, and then have the hardest time getting rid of it. Shake it off. Make the decision and move on. And if you fall back into old patterns, don’t be so hard on yourself. Tomorrow’s another day. Just don’t give up.
This is another one of the things I’ve learned, and I got some help from my children. Good choices can be easy when you can see someone making them. Love each other. Be grateful for what you have, and not forlorn for what you have not. Keep pedaling! And keep shaking.
